You should buy that.
You should know I need you.
You should have promoted me.
You should notice my new shoes.
You should make me soup when I am sick.
I should be making more money by now.
I should be married with children.
I should go to that conference.
I should clean the house.
I should get up earlier.
Expectations = frustration, anger. Expectations can lead us down the garden path.
Separate wants from shoulds. Really, who owes you? Society, a corporation, your parents, your partner, your children, yourself?
We all want. Wanting is good. Let it motivate you.
Should on the other hand is a story we tell ourselves. Should is believing that our version is the true and righteous one. That only we count, only our story is real.
Want. It is okay to want. However, let go when your want does not become reality.
One would think eating clean is simple, yet it is such a simple concept that our human brains often try to complicate it. And we humans are experts at complicating things.
Very simply stated, clean eating means to eat whole foods in their most natural form with as little processing or handling by others as possible. As a child, I used wander to the garden, pick berries, and eat them on the spot. That is about as clean eating as it gets (even including the dirt from the unwashed berries).
If you ate every food in its most natural form possible while remaining hygienic, you would be clean eating. Our ancestors gathered food rather than buying it in boxes and cans, and they ate very clean diets. Let’s face it, we are not our ancestors and gathering our own food isn’t going to cut it. So how can we eat as clean as possible?
Take an apple, for example.
An apple picked from the tree makes its way to your fruit bowl. You get hungry; you eat the apple. Clean, simple, no fuss. Not even a dish to wash.
You take half a dozen apples and your boil them down to make applesauce. No sugar added. Still clean. The pulp, or fibre, is still present so that you may benefit from it. Leave the skin so you will benefit from the nutrients held in the skin as well. The nutritional value of some foods decrease when cooked but overall apples hold up well. Adding cinnamon, a healthy spice, is delicious and nutritious.
Store bought applesauce can be clean if there is no added sugar and no preservatives. Applesauce from the store is a version of a canned food, which is just a way to preserve food. Canning has been around since the 18th century and is an ideal way to preserve foods that you are not going to eat immediately. If the ingredients list mentions sugar, find another brand.
Eat as much food as possible in its natural state whether pulled from the ground or picked from the tree. If you need to buy food in cans or boxes, choose items with the fewest ingredients possible with little or no sugar, salt or preservatives added.
Keep things simple and the health benefits will add up.
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Success habits are the repeated behaviours of successful people. Figure out what works best for you and incorporate the habits that serve you best. Experiment with your routine this month to develop one success habit that works for you. Next month, pick another one and build that habit into your routine.
The Internet is flooded with articles touting the importance of daily writing, and not just for professional writers. Julie Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way, succinctly explains why we should all write every day. She encourages everyone to write three pages every morning to “provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and synchronize the day at hand.” Keep a daily journal and watch your mind and world expand.
Limited Wardrobe Choices
Some successful people seem to wear uniforms of the same colored pants and shirt each day. If that works for you, great. If not, create combinations of clothing for different occasions to take the guesswork (and several hours) out of getting ready for each day and event. There are many systems touted online if you Google it. Or you could take pictures of different combinations and use them to pick clothing for the day.
Regular Sleep Patterns
As an athlete, I learned much about life. Athletes train not only in their sport but also in visualizing their success, their best race, their perfect routine. By learning how to visualize, you can practice anything, anywhere and anytime. Visualize that difficult client meeting, your next public speaking gig, or that difficult conversation that has been weighing on your mind. Practice can happen in your mind and is of great value. Ask any Olympian.
Affirmations have been used for a long time. They are a way to make positive suggestions to your subconscious over and over again until they are ingrained in you, you believe them, and hence behave according to the truth of the mantra. They can be simple such as French psychologist Emile Coue, “Every day in every way, I am getting better and better.” They can be written just for you based on your personal struggles and the new mindset you want to achieve. Once you have your affirmation, repeat it at least once per day. Better yet, post it somewhere you can see it and repeat it often.
Focused Deep Breathing
Focused deep breathing calms you when you are in a high stress situation. It helps bring back your focus to what is important rather than allowing your emotions to carry you away. Emotions are good and tell you what is important. Focused breathing allows you to use your emotion in a positive manner.
Silence and Meditation
Exercise stimulates your body and your mind. It keeps you healthy so that you can focus on what you really want in life. Exercise relives stress and open your mind up. It keeps improves your mood and protects you from mental health issues such as depression. One of the best ways to get the exercise your body and mind needs is to integrate it into your daily life.
Which of these success habits would benefit you most as part of your daily routine? Revisit your routines and build on them.
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