According to the Oxford Dictionary:
Management is “the process of dealing with or controlling things or people.”
Leadership is “the action of leading a group of people or an organization, or the ability to do this.”
According to real life (and this is a true story…)
Management is telling a coffee shop employee with a broken arm not to try a new way but rather to find someone else who can follow the rules. Management is telling him to do only what he can handle doing, according to the rules.
Leadership is allowing that employee to try a new method, one he believes he can do with his broken arm, and when it works out even better, changing the way you make a product based on the accidental innovation.
Management is telling that employee’s supervisor that she was wrong to allow that employee to experiment, to break the rules, order her to go back to the original process and write her up for insubordination.
Leadership is trying out this new method across all storefronts to see if everyone can benefit from this innovation and congratulating both the employee with the broken arm and her supervisor.
Management is living by the rulebook. Leadership is trusting your people to improve the rulebook.
You should buy that.
You should know I need you.
You should have promoted me.
You should notice my new shoes.
You should make me soup when I am sick.
I should be making more money by now.
I should be married with children.
I should go to that conference.
I should clean the house.
I should get up earlier.
Expectations = frustration, anger. Expectations can lead us down the garden path.
Separate wants from shoulds. Really, who owes you? Society, a corporation, your parents, your partner, your children, yourself?
We all want. Wanting is good. Let it motivate you.
Should on the other hand is a story we tell ourselves. Should is believing that our version is the true and righteous one. That only we count, only our story is real.
Want. It is okay to want. However, let go when your want does not become reality.
A follower is the woman at the front of the room saying exactly what her audience wants to hear. She is nothing more than a follower wearing a leader’s skirt.
A leader is the woman at the front of the room saying exactly what needs to be said, whether her audience wants to hear it or not. She respects her audience. She values her audience. She says difficult things with intelligence, kindness, and generosity.
A leader is the woman in the room who stands up and not knowing how she will be received, agrees with the leader at the front of the room. She puts herself on the line for what she believes in. Standing up and speaking her values is an invitation to the audience to follow her.
Do you wish to lead or follow?
Abundant health. We all want it. But, what people say all the time is, “I want to lose weight.” The focus becomes on removing what we do not want in our lives. Then, we are empty and hungry. This is not abundance.
Health is about abundance, what we want in our lives.
Loved ones around the table.
Good food on the table.
Time to exercise.
A positive mindset.
Being joyful, healthy, beautiful… All of these things are nothing more than a happy side effect of the above.
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